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Gothling of the Month – July 2012

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July 2nd, 2012 Posted 11:00 pm

July 2012

Say Hi to WHISPER. Yes, she’s one of mine and very excited to be a Gothling.

Whisper – Gothling of the month, July 2012

 

Whisper during an early Bats! meow… photo shoot. She’s not quite as evil as she looks.

 

Whisper having a great time at a cemetery picnic last summer

 

Whisper relaxing and posing for a picture for Grandma.


If you want to submit your gothing for our monthly feature, email us at gothing@batsmeow.com.

 

 

 

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June 24th, 2012 Posted 10:02 am

Should have posted this yesterday, but I used that as a catch up day. Very excited to be back on track 🙂

WEEK 6, YEAR 1


Day 35 was hard 🙁  We took Alek to the airport to send him off for a 3-week dance intensive.  The longest I’ve been away from any of my kids has been an almost 1-week visit with their grandmother.  Needless to say, “mama’s freakin’ out!!”

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Fathers Day Dinner.  Seared scallops with wilted Asian slaw. The kids told me they as good as Chef Ramsey’s.  Haha!  As long as no one calls me a stupid donkey, we’re good.

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In my world, dragonflies = faeries.  This one landed on me an then was kind enough to pose for a picture.

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Pretty girls.  We stopped by the park after dance camp and played in the water.  Does my heart good when sisters are friends.

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Yeah!!!  My girls are learning something from Winnie Cooper 🙂  We picked up the ‘middle school’ book for Ravynn. She read it in two days and said that it was a “nice review”.  She’s now moved on to a pre-algebra workbook. 

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Girls night! Ravynn did my hair in a fishtail braid that she learned from her new American Girl magazine.

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Also from American Girl magazine… a poster the girls are coloring together.

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June 23rd, 2012 Posted 1:45 pm

Yes, we got behind again. Life… you know…

WEEK 5, YEAR 1


The girls wanted to take a walk around town looking for Walking Men Project statues.  As we hunted around AU for their contribution, the girls took the opportunity to walk the fountain.  Ravynn was a little more sure of her footing than Whisper was.

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PIZZA!!!  Homemade 🙂

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Nature at Shadyside. 

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No matter where you go in Anderson, you WILL be stopped by a train.  When we stopped for our third of the day, we decided to take a picture.

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More nature at Shadyside.  I love when ‘in color’ photographs look black and white.

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Flat Stanley [from Cali] with the big grafitti eyeball we found in an alley downtown. 

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Researching and writing at Panera.  In fact, those are my plans for today as well. 

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Where Do You Want to Go?

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June 11th, 2012 Posted 8:30 am

I don’t remember when I first learned of Flat Stanley.  I’ve never read the books and the kids have never done Flat Stanley projects for school.  I suspect a friend mentionned it or it was featured on one of the blogs I follow.  I do know that it’s popped under my radar several times since then and several times I thought about doing a home version.  Neither of the boys were especially interested and the project was too intended for their benefit for me to do all the work.  Ravynn and Whisper, however, are incredibly interested.

So far, they’ve designed Flat Stanleys for themselves and one for each of their brothers.  I have one ready for me and the girls have completed the pair that I was going to do.  We have trips scheduled for a couple of them and are signed on to serve as a host family for someone else. We really look foward to that.

After browsing the website, it seems there aren’t rules so much as suggestions, so it’s up to each participant to decide how they want their Flat experience to go.  I’ve talked with the girls and at this point, this is the plan.

  • Write a bio for each of our Flat People [posted below]
  • Ask hosts to fill out travel logs and sign signature pages [encouraging them to decorate the pages]
  • Allow return of digital picture files
  • Plan visits for 1-2 weeks. 
  • Create a binder to hold the travel logs and signature pages. 
  • Blog their trips!

First, though, let me introduce our Flat People to you.

Flat Sapphire [designed by Ravynn]

Birthplace: Anderson, IN
Birthdate: 6/9/2012
Favorite color: Blue
Lucky number: 5
Hobbies:

  • Drawing
  • Reading
  • Exploring nature

Where she wants to visit:

  • Japan
  • Caliornia
  • Manhattan

She wants to learn about:

  • Nature
  • Museums
  • Famous people

 
Flat Spring[designed by Whisper]

Birthplace: Anderson, IN
Birthdate: 6/9/2012
Favorite color: Orange
Lucky number: 7
Hobbies:

  • Ballet
  • Volleyball

Where she wants to visit:

  • France
  • Africa
  • China
  • Texas

She wants to learn about:

  • Science
  • History
  • Your schools

 
Flat Stefan[designed by Ravynn]

Birthplace: Anderson, IN
Birthdate: 6/9/2012
Favorite color: Orange
Lucky number: 7
Hobbies:

  • Dance
  • Acting
  • Flirting with girls

Where he wants to visit:

  • Moscow
  • New York City
  • Virginia

He wants to learn about:

  • The Arts
  • History
  • What teenagers do for fun

Flat Jordan [designed by Whisper]

Birthplace: Anderson, IN
Birthdate: 6/9/2012
Favorite color: Blue
Lucky number: 16
Hobbies:

  • Tennis
  • Hanging out with his girlfriend
  • Computers

Where he wants to visit:

  • France
  • Canada
  • China

He wants to learn about:

  • Technology
  • History
  • Colleges

Flat Gothlings[designed by Whisper & Ravynn]

Birthplace: Anderson, IN
Birthdate: 6/9/2012
Favorite color: Orange & Purple
Lucky number: 7 & 5
Hobbies:

  • Dance, volleyball, and tennis
  • Canoing, making people laugh

Where he wants to visit:

  • Canada
  • Japan
  • Texas
  • Europe
  • New York

He wants to learn about:

  • History
  • Food

Flat Ophelia [designed by Sheila]

Birthplace: Anderson, IN
Birthdate: 6/9/2012
Favorite color: Black
Lucky number: 13
Hobbies:

  • Gardening
  • Dancing in the moonlight

Where she wants to visit:

  • Salem
  • New Orleans
  • Ireland

She wants to learn about:

  • Urban legends
  • Old cemeteries
  • History
  • Famous people

If you know anyone who would be interested in hosting one of our Flat People, please let us know.

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21-27/365

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June 10th, 2012 Posted 10:07 pm

Yes, I plan to post these 365 updates on Saturdays, but I’ll be honest. Yesterday was difficult for me.  It would have been my dad’s 85th birthday.  I really just wanted to sit around and snuggle my kids.

But, we’re back at it and I have some photos from this past week to show you.

WEEK 4, YEAR 1


Last Saturday, Ravynn decided to start a 3,000 piece puzzle.  She made quick work of most of the border, but then decided she didn’t like sitting on the floor to work on it, so she boxed it back up. After spending a couple of days rubbing her sore back, I thought this was a great idea. 

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After feeling really proud of myself for going to bed early, I was slightly annoyed with Eric when he woke me up to see this “really cool thing” in the living room.  I got over that immediately when I saw this incredible dragonfly on the ceiling fan.  I wish the camera had captured how gold it was. 

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Sweet snuggle bug waiting patiently for her turn on the computer.  She got a little sun.

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Yes… those raspberry bushes that I planted in the fall and keep stressing over [we need more rain!!] finally produced fruit.  Two little berries.  I let the girls have them.  I understand they needed sugar.

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Ravynn completed her Flat Person and wanted a photo of the two of them together.  After watching the first two seasons of Vampire Diaries, she was understandably upset when I referred to her creation as a doppelganger. 

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Whisper go a foot tattoo to remind her while I was at work that I love her CRAZY BIG.

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THIS is what happens when I let Alek make his own lunch… spaghetti salad. I don’t even know what to say about it…

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My Path Less Traveled

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June 7th, 2012 Posted 7:55 am

don’t ever change
 
That advice is easier to give than it is to receive.
 
Ask any kid – being different is not an awesome experience. 
Ask any enlightented adult – it should be. 
 
It often takes the distance created by age and maturity to honestly appreciate it.  Every person has at least one distinct feature [physical or otherwise] that makes them different and until they learn to embrase these features, they’re often the things that embarass us.
 
As a child, I was a shortie.  Who am I kidding?  I’m still a munchkin, barely reaching 4’11”.  Inside my family, this is not odd; out in the world, it is.  I’ve never been athletic – prefering to sit inside and read than to head out on a bike or even playing in the yard. My mother used to have to force me outside. 🙂  I also didn’t blend with my schoolmates.  I went to a small private school [on scholarship, I will note] and we didn’t have the available extra cash for ski trips or the ‘right’ clothes and shoes.  I didn’t have the newest electronics.
 
Lucky for me, I developed an “I don’t care what anyone else thinks about me;  What I think about me is the important thing” attitude. This did not impress my parents or my teacher or many other adults, really.  If they could see ahead to the current issues with bullying, their tune may have been different.
 
My own kids, despite Eric’s and my strong encouragement to be their own people and not cater to the boundaries imposed by society [you can’t do that, you’re … a boy… a girl… too young … too old… too short… etc.], have all felt the pressure of being different.  Jordan danced until he was 13.  Alek, at 14, is still in classes and intends to make a career of it.  Both boys, though, felt the sting of unkind comments from other boys in school.  At a couple points it required teacher intervention [and we’re thankful for adults who educate about both the art and the athleticism of dance].  They did make it through.  Ravynn has been picked on for being small and short – but she’s a full year younger than many kids in her class, so of course she’s small and short.  Whisper wore glasses.  Jordan wore glasses.  Ravynn had a medical condition and has a scar on her face…  So many opportunities to be “different.”
 
I’m pleased with how the kids deal with being their own person.  We’ve tried to help.  Of course, some issues are more difficult than others and we do shelter through the tears.
 
I encourage you to shelter and guide anyone who resists being different.  Any road is easier to travel with a friend at your side.
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14-20/365

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June 4th, 2012 Posted 9:42 pm

Just about caught up with the 365 pictures 🙂  This should do it, then I’ll be back on track to post every Sunday. 

WEEK 3, YEAR 1


Alek’s final paperwork ready to head off for his summer intensive.  He attended his first real audition in Febrary and was accepted into a relatively high level of class. Unfortunately another dance opportunity kept him from attending the 6-week program. 

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While Whisper attended a birthday party at a local park, Ravynn and I took a short walk around the walking trail.  How lovely that we have a little covered bridge in the middle of the park.

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You’ll see a theme. I just adore the wildflowers [weeds?] that grow in central Indiana.  They don’t compare to the ones I enjoyed as a child, but some of them are moving our way. I’ll do my best to photograph them as I find them. 

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 More weeds.  These tiny little flowers would be welcome all over my property. 

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 Cleaning up the art projects the girls brought home from school.  Some are just too big to realistically keep, so we photograph then and keep the pictures. 

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 Walking Man party!!  Jordan’s girlfriend created this 10.5′ masterpiece as part of the Waking Man Project.  Because it was near dusk, the Anderson Indian didn’t photograph well.  One of the goals we have for the summer is to find them all.  Watch for photographic evidence.

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June 2nd, 2012 Posted 6:50 pm

Pictures 7-13 of my 365 day project.  I’ll be honest, on a few of these days I was sick sick sick, so the girls helped out with the photo taking.  I do adore my little princesses.

WEEK 2, YEAR 1


Sunday was our annual dance recital.  Ravynn and Whisper both performed, as did Alek. The picture we chose to represent recital was an impromptu surprise performance that Alek did at the end of one of the younger classes jazz routines.  They were dancing to a song from the Grease soundtrack.  Here he is as Danny Zucco.

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While I WANT to be a master gardener, I’m not.  My parents had incredibly green thumbs, but mine are black.  The joke is that if you want to kill a plant, hand it to me; however, last fall one of our neighbors gave us 5 pots of raspberry bushes.  We dug up a row of earth behind our shed and planted 15 raspberry plants.  I understand we shouldn’t expect fruit for several years, but you can see green berries – they’re trying.

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One of our neighbors is a great garderer – or at least he hires people who are. I snapped this picture while waiting at the bus stop with the girls.  I don’t know what these flowers are, but I wouldn’t mind having some.

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Whisper wasn’t really doing homework waiting for the bus, I promise, but she’s a writer.  She’s started working on a short project and wanted the moment documented.

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 Whisper took this picture on day 1 of me not feeling so great.  She saw the roses from across the street at the bus stop and thought they were beautiful.

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 Fever of 104.9.  I saw nothing but my feet sticking out from under the covers on the sofa.

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 I relied on Ravynn to take this photo for me.  Again at the bus stop.

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May 25th, 2012 Posted 6:59 am

I had such a hard time writing that last post that I’ve gotten incredibly behind the schedule that I made to keep myself on track.  Here is a valiant attempt to get back on track.

I’ve made a goal to complete the 365 project.  Basically the goal is to take one photograph each day for 365 days.  I’m having fun so far, but worry, as always, that my life is boring and that no one will care.  I started on a Sunday and am supposed to [ahem] post weekly on Sunday, so I present to you photos 1-6 of 365.

WEEK 1 YEAR 1


On Sunday – Mother’s Day Sunday, the final performance of Highland Junior High School’s “Willy Wonka Jr” ran. Alek was the Candy Man.  He was a true highlight of the show.  His love for performing and his absolutely capturing stage presense really created a remarkable and memorable character.

1/365 – Alek is the Candy Man


Ravynn worked really hard on her “Making a Mummy” interest fair project for Northside Middle School.  This is a little peek at the mummies on day 40 – just before they were unearthed to create her display.


 One of my favorite co-workers always comments that she would starve in my house because she “doesn’t eat weird food”.  I thought of her when I snapped this picture. Purple cauliflower, yellow carrots, and plain old boring broccoli 🙂


 When Ravynn completed her Mummy project, she was incredibly proud and felt very special that her dad let her take one of his original paintings to complete her display. 


 This month for the first time,  I participated in the Foodie Pen Pal program.  On Thursday, my first package arrived in the mail.  It was a very exciting experience for all of us. 


 Friday was rehearsal for our annual dance recital.  I love my little bunheads 🙂6/365

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Muddling

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May 25th, 2012 Posted 12:04 am

I married an actor.  I’ve spent time on stage, but out of no great desire to perform.  I mostly stepped in when a friend needed help.  My kids have all had stage time in ballet performances.  Ravynn and Whipser especially have taken to acting. We’ve been very fortunate with the opportunities they’ve had to be on camera.

Early this spring, I had the unique experience of joining Whisper on a shoot.  I’ve been on set with her, but only when were were both working as extras [Beverly Lane, Lightning in a Bottle].  This was my first opportunity, despite her growing resume of roles, to be “stage mom” and to just enjoy the experience of watching her act. 

Her first role was as an extra, the Cheerleader Zombie, in the film Beverly Lane from Arsonist Productions.  She enjoyed wearing the zombie makeup and especially enjoyed her scene with her dad, Level-Nine Zombie Killer, Rick Ashley. She was patient and upbeat on set and has nothing but praise for the experience.  It didn’t hurt that someone referred to her as a movie star.  🙂  It was also really nice to enjoy the experience with most of the rest of the family.  Eric played a zombie killer while Whisper, Ravynn, Alek, and I were zombies. 

This film definitely infected her with the acting bug.  You don’t see her in the trailer, but that’s her dad in the spiked helmet 🙂

During the filming of Beverly Lane, Whisper and Eric were able to work closely with Ms. Kate Chaplin of Karmic Courage Productions who was working on a short film and needed a little girl. On their website, Kate describes the movie as, “A dark comedy about a baby girl born during the STAR WARS boom in 1977 who shares a similar name to a certain Jedi Princess that wasn’t allowed to wear underwear.”  Eric was in this film as well.  Jordan and Ravynn worked as extras. 

You can see her in this trailer [right around 45 seconds, but you should watch the whole thing]. 

Not long after that project, Eric took on a lead role in the movie Lightning in a Bottle.  When they needed some extras for a ghost scene , Whisper and I stepped in.  Ravynn plays a maenad and Alek worked as a PA.  You can spot Ravynn and Eric in this trailer.

Ravynn had a lot of fun and left us all wishing that we could be maenads – despite their nasty lunchtime preferences.

Not long ago, we were honored to attend the premier of this movie at the Paramount Theatre here in Anderson.  I was incredibly impressed with this film.  I’ve seen a lot of independant film and this ranks near the top in quality.  Treat yourself to a copy of the DVD.

Her most recent project was filming a music video for the artist Thomasina‘s song “Muddle in the Mud”.  She played the singer as a young girl. Yes, she’s in prison, but as the director explained to her, it’s a symbolic prison built by expectations society might have on you and how you don’t quite ‘measure up’. 

I was amazed by her professional attitude and her ability to be ‘on’ when needed. Off camera, she was sweet and charming and made friends with everyone.

Thank you all for making ‘on screen’ a good experience after the trauma of Wife Swap.  I’ll share more of that experience later.

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